Is There Such Thing As Too Many Bridesmaids?
There are two types of brides: the ones who’ve known exactly who their bridesmaids will be for years and the ones that are constantly stressing over who they should choose. If you’re the latter, you’re probably wondering if you can just choose all your girlfriends or if there’s such thing as too many bridesmaids. If that’s you, we’re here to help!
How many are too many?
So, once and for all, how many bridesmaids are too many? Well, the answer is, there is no correct amount or number of bridesmaids that is too big! The number of bridesmaids you should choose is the number of people you can’t imagine not standing next to you on your big day – no matter what that number is! Don’t feel pressured to choose the amount that “looks good” in photos; your photographer will know how to make you and your besties look great!
Do you have to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen?
The short answer is, no! You do not have to have the same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen. It’s totally okay (and normal) for you and your future hubby to have a different number of people who you consider best friends. Remember what it’s really all about – the people who love and support you that you want standing next to you. It’s not about having the perfect number or symmetry. And, again, your photographer will know how to make any size group look amazing!
However, if it is important for you to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, that’s perfectly okay, too! Just don’t go into it expecting your future spouse to do all the cutting or adding. Be willing to make changes on your side as well.
Is there anyone you have to ask to be your bridesmaid?
If you feel like you should ask someone to be your bridesmaid, but you don’t actually want to, that’s your answer right there. It’s your day, not theirs. To add to that, just because someone asked you to be a bridesmaid does not mean you have to “return the favor.” Your wedding size, budget, location, etc. are totally different and you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
The only exception you may want to consider making is for family and in-laws. Friends come and go, but family is family. Just because you’re not in the best place with your sister, or you don’t really know your future sister in law just yet, doesn’t mean it’s going to be that way forever. Ask yourself this question: would you rather regret having them in your wedding or regret not having them in your wedding?
Can you choose to not have any bridesmaids?
Absolutely! Make the day alllllllll about you and your new hubby! Will you hurt your friend’s feelings? Probably not. You can always let them know that if you were going to have bridesmaids, they’d definitely be on the list. Plus, let’s be real, being a bridesmaid is a lot of work and a lot of money. Your friends will probably be thrilled!
Remember to get on the same page as your partner when making wedding planning decisions. If your partner is hoping to have a big wedding party with lots of groomsmen, you both may have to do some compromising. Read more about the pros and cons of not having bridesmaids here.
The bottom line is, choose however many bridesmaids you want to and don’t worry about anything else! Your pictures will be gorgeous, your true friends won’t get their feelings hurt, and your wedding day is only about you and your spouse, no one else. Now, go get started on those bridesmaids proposals! (Or not, if you’re team #nobridesmaids! ????) Then, head over to our facebook page or group to tell us how many bridesmaids you have/had!